There has been some talk lately, both in the blog world and out, of the "love languages". Mine is physical touch. For anyone that knows me, this shouldn't come as a surprise.
There are few things in this world that I love more than holding hands, cuddling up next to someone, or even just a simple hug. It's more than just loving these things, or even just wanting them... Emotionally, mentally, and physically I need these things. In order to feel loved I need someone to actually reach out and touch me. I thrive on it.
My mom and I had a conversation today about a young married couple we know. They've been married 2 years and just had their first baby a few months ago. She commented on the fact that it seems as though the husband has to almost force himself to touch his wife. I never see them hold hands, I never see him put his arm around her, I've never seen them hug, kiss, or show any kind of physical affection.
This got me thinking...if I were in a relationship such as this, would I survive? I venture that I would not. I think that if I were in a relationship without the touch-factor it would die a slow and painful death. Slow, because I'd just keep waiting to see if maybe something would happen, and painful because it would, very quickly, become painful for me.
This also brought on many thoughts of physicality of a different nature. I think a lot of my relationships have relied too heavily on the physical aspect. They've been centered on the making out rather than on the deeper, and quite honestly, more lasting aspects.
So, a few conclusions to draw from above musings:
A-- If I am physically affectionate with you, don't be alarmed. It just means that I want to show you how much I love you as a friend.
B-- When I do finally date someone I need to make sure he's okay with being touched. I don't have much of a personal space bubble.
C-- NCMO's are not good for me.
And that children, is all I will say on this subject. Big kiss to all of you!
My mom and I had a conversation today about a young married couple we know. They've been married 2 years and just had their first baby a few months ago. She commented on the fact that it seems as though the husband has to almost force himself to touch his wife. I never see them hold hands, I never see him put his arm around her, I've never seen them hug, kiss, or show any kind of physical affection.
This got me thinking...if I were in a relationship such as this, would I survive? I venture that I would not. I think that if I were in a relationship without the touch-factor it would die a slow and painful death. Slow, because I'd just keep waiting to see if maybe something would happen, and painful because it would, very quickly, become painful for me.
This also brought on many thoughts of physicality of a different nature. I think a lot of my relationships have relied too heavily on the physical aspect. They've been centered on the making out rather than on the deeper, and quite honestly, more lasting aspects.
So, a few conclusions to draw from above musings:
A-- If I am physically affectionate with you, don't be alarmed. It just means that I want to show you how much I love you as a friend.
B-- When I do finally date someone I need to make sure he's okay with being touched. I don't have much of a personal space bubble.
C-- NCMO's are not good for me.
And that children, is all I will say on this subject. Big kiss to all of you!
1 comments:
you are a wise woman nurse annie. this is a topic that i quite enjoy. note to self. next time i see you, lets discuss this. i love you.
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